You know that feeling when you realize you and your partner have accidentally fallen into a pattern? Same day of the week, same position, same predictable rhythm. There’s nothing wrong with knowing what works, honestly, it’s kind of beautiful that you’ve figured out what feels good together. But let’s be real: even the most delicious meal gets a little boring when it’s the only thing on the menu.
Here’s the thing about sexual routines: they sneak up on us. One day you’re exploring each other with wild curiosity, and the next, you’re operating on autopilot. And when sex becomes predictable, it doesn’t just affect what happens in the bedroom. You might notice you’re both a little more irritable, a little more distant, maybe even less interested in initiating altogether. Your body starts associating intimacy with “same old, same old” rather than excitement and connection.
The good news? You don’t need to buy elaborate toys or learn tantric techniques to shake things up. Sometimes the simplest shifliterally just changing your position, can make everything feel new again. This weekend, why not experiment a little? These five positions aren’t about performing or impressing anyone. They’re about rediscovering pleasure, deepening connection, and reminding yourselves that sex can be playful and exploratory, not just something you check off your list.
1. Cowgirl Sex Positions (Yes, We’re Starting With a Classic, But Hear Me Out)
I know, I know. Cowgirl feels almost too basic to mention. But here’s why it deserves a spot on this list: so many people avoid being on top because they feel self-conscious or uncertain. Maybe you’re worried about how you look from that angle, or you genuinely don’t know what to do once you’re up there. Let’s fix that.
Being on top is actually one of the most empowering positions you can try, especially if penetration sometimes feels uncomfortable for you. When you’re in control, you decide the depth, the angle, the speed, the rhythm. You’re not just receiving, you’re actively participating in your own pleasure. That’s incredibly powerful.
Making it work for your body:
- If straddling straight feels like an inner thigh workout from hell, try extending one leg out to the side. It takes so much pressure off.
- Ask your partner to bend their knees and support your back with their legs. This gives you something to lean against and makes the whole experience less exhausting.
- If your partner has their legs spread slightly, you might find it easier to find your groove.
And please, let go of any performance anxiety. There’s no “right” way to move on top. Some people like grinding, some prefer bouncing, some do a slow rock. Figure out what actually feels good to you, not what you think looks hot. Trust me, your genuine pleasure is the sexiest thing your partner could witness.
2. Knees-to-Chest Sex Positions (For Oral That Hits Different)
Oral sex can absolutely fall into a routine, too. Same position, same angle, same everything. So let’s talk about something that might feel a little vulnerable at first, but can completely change the game.
Lie on your back and pull your knees up toward your chest, like you’re doing a stretch your physical therapist would approve of. Hold your legs in place with your hands behind your knees. Yes, it might feel exposed. Yes, it might feel a little awkward the first time. But stick with it.
Why this position is worth trying:
- It opens up access in a completely new way, allowing your partner to explore with their tongue from different angles
- There’s something subtly powerful about the position, your hands are occupied holding your legs, which creates a loose form of surrender that can be incredibly hot
- The angle makes it easier to hit all the right spots, and the slight stretch can actually increase sensation
If you’re someone who tends to overthink during oral (guilty as charged), this position forces you to just be present. Your hands are busy, so you can’t fidget or second-guess. You’re literally holding yourself open, which requires a level of trust and vulnerability that can deepen intimacy.
3. Sitting Face-to-Face Sex Positions (For When You Want Connection and Passion)
This is hands-down one of the most intimate positions you can try, and you can do it anywhere: your bed, the couch, a sturdy chair, even up against a wall if you’re feeling adventurous.
Have your partner sit with their back supported (against a headboard, armrest, or wall). Then straddle them so you’re sitting face-to-face. You can wrap your legs around their waist or keep your feet planted on either side for more leverage.
What makes this position special:
- Eye contact is unavoidable in the best way possible. You’re forced to be present with each other.
- You can kiss, whisper, breathe together, it’s deeply connective
- The angle allows for grinding and circular motions that can feel incredible for clitoral stimulation
- If you practice Kegel exercises, this position makes it easy to engage those muscles while your partner is inside you (which feels amazing for both of you)
This isn’t a position for fast, frantic sex. It’s for slow, intentional connection. It’s for the mornings when you wake up tangled together, or the evenings when you want to feel emotionally close as much as physically satisfied. If your sex life has started to feel disconnected, this position can help you remember why you love being intimate together in the first place.
4. Spooning Sex Positions (The Underrated Morning Magic Position)
If you’ve never tried spooning sex, you’re genuinely missing out. This is the position you want on lazy weekend mornings when you’re both half-asleep, warm, and don’t want to move too much but definitely want to get closer.
Lie on your sides with your partner behind you (the “big spoon” position). They can enter from behind while you both stay relaxed and cozy. If you need more access, lift your top leg slightly or rest it on your partner’s leg.
Why spooning sex is quietly incredible:
- It feels emotionally safe and comfortable; there’s no performance pressure
- The angle is perfect for G-spot stimulation since penetration comes from a different direction than face-to-face positions
- Your partner’s hands are completely free to explore your body, touch your breasts, or provide clitoral stimulation
- It’s ideal for slow, sensual sex that prioritizes connection over athleticism
Plus, there’s something deeply tender about sex from this position. You’re both relaxed, you can talk quietly, and there’s an intimacy to being held while being pleasured. If you’re the kind of couple who struggles to slow down and be present, spooning forces you to savor the moment.
5. Shoulders-Up Sex Positions (The “Wait, This Actually Works?” Position)
This position has a reputation for requiring Olympic-level flexibility, but I promise that’s a myth. You don’t need to be a gymnast; you just need a partner who’s willing to help support you.
Start in missionary position. As your partner gets close to you, lift your legs up and rest them on their shoulders or chest. They use their body to hold your legs in place, which means you don’t have to do the work. See? Not so scary.
What makes this position worth the initial awkwardness:
- Your legs being pushed together creates a tighter sensation around the penis or toy, which intensifies pleasure for both of you
- The angle is absolutely perfect for G-spot stimulation, seriously, this position has earned the nickname “G-Whiz” for a reason
- It allows for deep penetration in a controlled way (your partner can adjust depth based on your feedback)
- There’s something powerful about the vulnerability of the position; it requires trust
If deep penetration is sometimes uncomfortable for you, communicate openly here. Your partner should move slowly and check in frequently. This position is about enhanced pleasure, not proving anything.
A Few Thoughts Before This Weekend
Look, trying new positions isn’t about becoming sexual acrobats or following some prescribed script for “mind-blowing sex.” It’s about curiosity. It’s about remembering that your bodies are capable of giving each other pleasure in lots of different ways, and that exploration itself can be incredibly bonding.
Some gentle reminders as you experiment:
- Laugh when things feel awkward. Sex doesn’t have to be perfectly choreographed to be good.
- Communicate throughout. “Can we adjust this?” and “That feels amazing” are both important things to say out loud.
- Not every position will be your new favorite, and that’s completely okay. The point is to try together.
- Go slow. Rushing into a new position is a good way to pull a muscle or kill the mood.
Your relationship deserves a sex life that feels alive and connected. That doesn’t mean every encounter needs to be a multi-position marathon. But shaking things up occasionally? That keeps the spark going. That reminds you both that intimacy can be playful, exploratory, and fun.
So this weekend, pick one (or try them all, no judgment). See what happens when you approach your partner with curiosity instead of routine. See what happens when you’re willing to feel a little awkward in the service of discovering something new together.
Your body, your pleasure, and your connection deserve that kind of attention.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if trying new positions feels awkward or forced?
Awkwardness is completely normal and actually kind of sweet. The first time you try anything new together, whether it’s a new position, a new restaurant, or a new conversation topic, there’s going to be some fumbling around. The key is approaching it with humor and patience. If something doesn’t work, laugh about it and adjust. The trying itself is what creates connection, not getting it perfect on the first attempt.
How do I suggest trying new positions without making my partner feel like what we’re doing isn’t enough?
Frame it as something you want to explore together, not as a criticism of what you’ve been doing. Try something like, “I love our sex life, and I’d love to try something new this weekend just to mix things up. What do you think about trying [specific position]?” The emphasis should be on addition and exploration, not replacement or dissatisfaction.
What if I’m not flexible enough for some of these positions?
Most positions can be modified to work for different bodies and flexibility levels. Don’t force your body into shapes that feel uncomfortable or painful. Use pillows for support, adjust angles, communicate with your partner about what feels good, and remember that there’s no medal for achieving a “perfect” position. The goal is pleasure, not performance.
Is it normal to feel self-conscious trying new positions?
Absolutely. Vulnerability and self-consciousness often go hand-in-hand with sexual exploration. Remember that your partner is with you because they’re attracted to you and want to experience pleasure with you. They’re not judging your body or your performance; they’re focused on the connection. If self-consciousness is overwhelming, try positions with less eye contact first (like spooning), then work your way toward more vulnerable positions as you build confidence together.
What if we try these positions and they just don’t feel as good as our usual routine?
That’s completely valid information! Not every position will work for everybody or every couple. The point of experimenting isn’t to force yourself to love something new; it’s to discover what genuinely works for you both. Maybe you’ll find one new position you love and stick with that. Maybe you’ll discover that your usual routine really is your favorite, and that’s okay too. The exploration itself often brings you closer, even if you don’t revolutionize your sex life.
